How to Have a Godly Marriage

With wedding season upon us, we thought it would be appropriate to talk about Godly marriages. As a recent newlywed I know these reminders can make a huge difference in the quality of your marriage.

Pray With Each Other

Praying with your spouse is a great way to make sure that God is the focus of your relationship. It can be intimidating to begin praying with your spouse, but remember that he or she loves you! They will likely be cautious at first, but once you two begin praying together it will become a daily habit. You might feel vulnerable and nervous about asking God for help in front of your spouse. In my experience, I have been able to express spiritual desires in prayer with my husband I might not have been able to bring up with him in a normal conversation. Remember, The Lord is near to all who call on him (Psalm 145:18 ESV). When you pray as a couple God will allow you to draw closer to one another and to Him.

Work Together As Equals

As you work toward a Godly marriage, keep in mind that God created man in His own image....male and female He created them (Genesis 1:27 NASB). Both men and women were created to look like God, which means he sees equal potential in both genders. Treat your spouse as your equal, instead of your assistant or maid. Divide housework and other responsibilities equally between you, assigning tasks that mirror your individual talents and abilities. This avoids giving any individual in your relationship an "upper hand" that could lead to unnecessary or destructive fighting.

Be Completely Committed to Each Other

Monogamy is increasingly unpopular. Many people in the world are choosing not to marry and settle down with one partner because they don't want to miss out on dating. This attitude can even put stress on those who have chosen to marry. If you go out with single friends, be clear about your devotion to your spouse. Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral (Hebrews 13:4 NIV). There is no room for infidelity in a Godly marriage. Both parties must honor the sacred bond of marriage and never forget the vows they made to their spouse and God.